Hello there, wonderful neighbors:
This is Julie Bacon at 18339 Dayton Pl N. Some of you know us and our story: my husband, Wayne, had a stroke on April 1, 2008 when Morgan, our daughter was only 3 weeks old. We'd only lived in the neighborhood for 9 or 10 months, and although we hadn't met any of you, many of you stepped forward and were extremely supportive and helped us tremendously during the past 3 difficult years. You cleaned up our yard, weeded our garden, took our trash bins in and out, brought us dinner, had us over for dinner, babysat my daughter, responded to my multiple desperate concerns about where Wayne was because he wasn't answering the phone while I was 'stuck' at work downtown. You took care of our beautiful (and now deceased) golden retriever Tucker, you came over and checked that we were okay every time an ambulance showed up... THANK YOU!!!
I truly believe I could not have come out of the past three years as "intact" as I am if I had not had your support and help. And with that, I am sad to say that our attempts at keeping the house and staying in the neighborhood have not been successful. The loan modification was approved by the investor on Monday but was denied Wednesday by the Closing Dept. based on a few factors (which to me feels like they were just listing a few reasons for them to not push this through the last bit of red-tape).
The house is set to be auctioned on March 11th. I think I am finally going to "let go" and move onto the next part of our journey. I am looking into a few last options, but really it's to minimize the effect on my credit than to attempt to "save the house".
I wanted to let you know this and give you a heads-up that this will be occurring. Maybe someone wants some investment property in the neighborhood... I don't know--it just felt right to contact everyone and let you know, as well as extend our deepest gratitude for the friendships, support, and assistance you have given us these very difficult 3 years.
Although we will miss this neighborhood terribly, I have my head high, my eyes looking forward, and am excited to see where we'll rent a house in the next month and see what else the future holds for us... we can only move forward. :)
Thank you again.
Sincerely,
Julie Bacon
www.thebaconfamilyfund.org
TheBaconFamilyFund.Blogspot.com
julieannbacon@hotmail.com
Julie. I have no words that could offer you one iota of comfort, which saddens me deeply. I have kept up with your struggles via what you write and post -- and I am convinced that what I read is but a shadow of the real story.
ReplyDeleteI see your pain, and I see the heroism you embody. Trying to hold so much together while feeling so alone must feel unbearably frightening and sad. Yet, you are. Holding it together. With every day, you do. I hope that you recognize your strength as something you alone developed and own, and feel empowered as a result.
For Morgan, though, you absolutely must take care of yourself. You have to put your mental and physical health above that of your spouse. However you need such care, be it therapy, yoga, exercise, daycare/babysitting for alone time, etc., you are allowed to make it a priority to provide these for yourself. For the health and success of your family it is essential.
Where is your and Wayne's extended family? Are they helping you?
I've been saving prayers. I'll give them all to you and yours.
Love, your old friend,
Jill (Sten) Miller