Hey Grief, ✋ Talk To The Hand!

Love this❤

 ...grief is a sort of limbo, isn't it? ... "alive but not living..."

The problem for me is not a lack of desire to, or knowing that I can, leave this grief... The problem is an uncertainty of how to:

1) reconcile the grief with my present and looking towards my future

2) feel again... and all-the-while knowing that I will ultimately lose again...

3) say to grief, "Hey, talk to the hand" when it pops up in my life unexpectedly. 

Looking Ahead: looking forward to my Second Firsts

Life after loss is...

  ... accepting that your "2nd firsts" are just as exciting & okay to treasure & just as good as your 1st firsts...

•your 2nd first-kiss

•your 2nd first-date

•your 2nd first-house

•your 2nd first-dog

  ... letting go of the ideal that you wanted to have only:

•one husband in this lifetime

•one first-kiss that developed into a love story

•one anniversary

  ... allowing a new life to unfold without being too tethered to the old.